Healing Broken Men Baby Steps

Applaud. Yes, if you have decided it’s time to do something about the secret that has tortured you all these years, I applaud you. It takes a lot of courage to begin shattering the silence. Take it one step at a time and realize that healing and recovery are possible. Ask God for the courage to continue to follow the path.

Find safe people to talk to. Don’t rush. Find pastoral counselors, licensed Christian therapists, life coach, friends, who you know you can trust and can help. You can go online to find organizations that list therapists who are helpful: .

Attend safe retreats and support groups. If you are ready for the Healing Broken men retreat it is a place where you can go and talk and listen to other men share their stories. This is important because men need a community in order to heal. Remember it is fine to just listen at first, and only share a little at a time. You will feel safer this way, and your safety is very important as you start and continue to recover. Many participant report that the retreat was the turning point in their life.

Realize you’re not alone. Know there are other men out there who understand and can relate your pain and hurt. You’re not isolated and healing takes place in community. We need you and you need others.

Take your time in healing. Talking about your sexual abuse is a process, and it’s really important that you give yourself time. This race is a marathon, not a sprint. Be compassionate with yourself. Disregard the negative messages from others or self-talk like, “You should keep it to yourself. Just suck it up. You will hurt others if you tell.” Don’t allow the perpetrator to win by keeping you silent.

Allow yourself to experience feelings and emotions. This is one reason men often have challenges in releasing the guilt and shame. They don’t want to experience the feelings. It’s part of the process of healing. Releasing the emotion is a purging and cleanse of the spirit.

Ask for help. You cannot do this alone and you shouldn’t have to! It’s time to live. Start by sharing your story on this blog. Perhaps send an email to Thomas Edward. Continue to move forward one more step by asking for help.